CAN YOU BRING YOUR HOLIDAY ALTER EGO HOME WITH YOU?

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It’s now been over a week since I returned from my trip to Thailand and I have eased myself back into my routine of working, exercising and housework. But, I still feel like a portion of ‘holiday Chrissie’ still lingers in my mind. Going on holiday is a great time for reflection and at the time it feels like anything can be possible, which I love. But, after returning home to rainy England, where my previous problems remain, that feeling has started to flicker, and from my previous experience, it eventually disappears all together. This got me thinking, is it possible for my holiday alter ego and regular-self to co-exist?

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I always find that going away enables me to take a step back from my problems and to put everything into perspective. This diminishes any stress still niggling at my mind, and helps me feel calm and positive. But, in the past it’s been too easy to slip back into old habits after returning home and to get easily irritated, moan or engage in negative gossip. Although it’s already proving to be a challenge, I really do want to see things in a different way so I’ve decided to take up meditation to try and keep a piece of holiday-Chrissie alive.

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When I go on holiday, I love to read, try new things, and get a bit more cultured. However, when I’m at home it’s so easy to just re-watch my favourite TV series, visit my go-to cafe for brunch every Saturday and stay within my comfort zone, which is what I usually do.

But, since I’ve been home, I’ve made a list of everywhere in the city I live that I would love to try, to encourage myself to try new things. Now whenever I’ve arranged to go for dinner or breakfast, I can just pick something new from my list and hopefully discover something amazing.

When it comes to books, I’ve definitely read more this year than I have in a long time, but it can still be a challenge to continue with this good habit when I’m home. But, my bookcase is now filled with exciting new reads I can’t wait to get through, and I’ve set myself a challenge of reading at least one book a month which has helped me so far to stay motivated.

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SKIRT, JACKET – URBAN OUTFITTERS, SHOES – CONVERSE, EARRINGS, BAG – TOPSHOP, TOP – MISS SELFRIDGE

I have never been an early bird but while recovering from jet-lag I found myself getting up at 7am and going to bed at 10pm, which I really enjoyed. It felt amazing to get so much done before midday and to get an early night. But, this really isn’t natural for me so I’ve been setting alarms in the morning to try and keep it up. I have a feeling this routine will eventually slide…

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It almost feels inevitable that my holiday-self will eventually fade away and my bad habits will return, like it has previously. But, this doesn’t always have to be the case. This time round, I know it takes work to make these changes permanent, so I’m putting in a little bit more effort in the hopes it makes a difference.

HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS AS AN ADULT

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Making friends as an adult isn’t something any of us are really prepared for. In school we are encouraged to make friends with our classmates, and when we go off to university, we go through the process again. But then, you’ve found your friendship group and you’re set for life, right? Wrong. What happens when everybody grows up, moves to different areas and begins a hectic schedule of adulthood?

While there are people that remain close with their friendship groups from school, not all of us are that lucky. Having moved back to where I studied my degree recently, where everyone I originally knew had left, I found myself having to start over and trying to figure out, how do you make new friends as a twenty-something woman?

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JOIN A CLASS

As a way to encourage myself to try new things and meet new people, I decided to begin trapeze classes (I’m about six months in, and still no closer to being remotely graceful). Although this was definitely scary and made me feel like I was back at school, doing the god-awful ‘ice breaker’ introductions and bonding over how flippin’ difficult the moves were, worked wonders. It definitely challenged me to come out of my shell and even though it still sometimes makes me feel like a nervous wreck, I feel so much more confident after a class.

If your main goal is to meet new people, I would avoid joining classes that aren’t very social and purely just for exercise. Try and find a fun class that encourages social interaction such as dancing , aerial exercise or pole fitness.

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GO ON FRIEND DATES

Work is one of the best ways to make new friends but when I started a new job, I found a few people I connected with but I wasn’t sure how to transition from colleagues to friends. Of course there are work-dos but these only tend to happen a couple of times a year.

From my experience, you almost have to treat it like you would a romantic interest. Swap numbers. Follow them on Instagram. Ask them on a friend date. You may feel like a bit of a loser but you’ll never move past the ‘acquaintance-zone’ if you don’t take a chance. Like romantic dates, some might work out, whereas some might not.

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SKIRT – TOPSHOP, JUMPER – OLIVER BONAS, BOOTS – RIVER ISLAND

GO THAT EXTRA MILE

I still have a handful of people from my childhood that I like to catch up with every now and then, but there is usually at least a 6 month gap between each brunch date because as mentioned earlier, we live in different cities or time just seems to pass us by.

However, I find that sometimes you just need to make that extra effort, commit to a date in the near future, and travel to see the other. Maybe you could take the travelling in turns? Maybe one could pay for the travel while the other person covers lunch? It is definitely worth it as I always feel such joy when I have had a 4 hour natter with old friends about the good ol’ days and what they’ve been up to recently (over coffee and cake of course).

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I have a long way to go before I find my group of ‘gal pals’ but I’m definitely getting there. I think there is no way around it, to make friends as an adult you need to put yourself out there and try not to worry about what people think of you. You would be surprised at how many others find themselves in these situations.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

IS THE ANIMAL PRINT TREND WORTH INVESTING IN?

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I’m not always one to splurge on the fashion trend of the moment because more often than not, it is forgotten about in just a few months time. However, sometimes a trend struts in and grabs my attention. For the last few seasons, animal print has done just that. Unlike most others, animal print has been around for decades, with people like Debbie Harry, Mel B and Edie Sedgwick making it iconic. But recently, it has been EVERYWHERE and it doesn’t seem to be going anywhere, anytime soon.

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As somebody who has loved animal print for years, my wardrobe was already home to a pair of zebra print mule shoes, a leopard print jumper, snake print ankle boots and these FANTASTIC red leopard heels. I don’t think I have ever worn these babies without having tons of compliments thrown my way. I got these a few years ago on my birthday after finding the last pair, which were in my size and it just felt like fate. Whenever I need to add a touch of VA-VA-VOOM to an outfit, I know I can count on these.

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Now, when it came to buying a new animal print item, I looked around to figure out what I felt like my wardrobe was missing. With so many fabulous choices on the market, I wanted to wait for the right piece and not get carried away by purchasing items I wouldn’t still love when the novelty eventually wears off.

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When I found this coat, I knew it was the one. I have always loved the idea of a leopard print faux fur coat but I had never seen it done with cheetah print before. I felt like this added a fresh take to something quite classic (and done a million times over). This jacket is huggably soft, but it is fairly thin so I would recommend layering up with a jumper underneath. However, I can’t wait to rock this in Spring with a t-shirt and jeans.

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JACKET, SHOES, JUMPSUIT – TOPSHOP, BAG – & OTHER STORIES

This striking jacket can definitely speak for itself, which is why I chose to wear it with a plain black jumpsuit. But to add even more sass, I decided to clash it with my beloved leopard print heels. This is the perfect outfit for a date night or for going out for cocktails with the girls. For more casual occasions, swap the heels for some classic black Chelsea boots.

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Although I wouldn’t recommend buying a whole new wardrobe in every animal print imaginable, I would hop on this trend train! There are so many stunning pieces available at the moment that would be a shame to miss out on. This trend will probably die down eventually but animal print has been a beloved aspect of fashion for years and I suspect this will remain the same for a good while longer.

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