WHAT I’M NO LONGER BEATING MYSELF UP ABOUT

For a long time I only associated self-acceptance as accepting your physical appearance, rather than accepting everything about who you are. Although I’ve slowly come to terms with how I look, I’ve recently realised I’m often quite negative about certain aspects of my personality. Although I want to grow and improve as a person, I really want to stop being so hard on myself. Instead of trying to change those traits, I want to just accept them. I’ve still got a while to go to but I’m making a start.

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I’LL NEVER BE COOL

Since my days as a nerd in high school, I’ve felt self-conscious around ‘hipsters’ or former mean girls, and I immediately feel like I’ve been transported back to my teenage years.

I’m not quite as geeky as I used to be, but I’ll never be the ‘cool girl’ who spends her free time in clubs, wearing an array of vintage finds with a quirky hair do. I spend most of my free time watching old movies, baking cakes, reading and jamming to Taylor Swift songs. But I’m completely happy doing that, otherwise I would be spending my time differently.

Instead of making jokes about how ‘uncool’ I am, or how I act like a grandma, I want to just enjoy my time and not make myself feel like I should be someone I’m not, or doing something I wouldn’t enjoy.

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I’M A SLOW LEARNER 

Whenever I try and learn a new skill, I always feel insecure about how much longer it takes me. When I studied journalism, I found it so much harder than my class mates to study. Taking up a new physical activity usually takes me longer too (usually because my arms carry the same strength as spaghetti).

But, I’m beginning to understand that I just need to take things at my own pace and not compare myself to others who are on a different level to me.  I want to make sure when I learn something new, I’m in the right environment where I don’t feel pressured to move quicker than I’m capable of.

Having to take this extra bit of time has helped me find determination to carry on and not quit, even when something’s hard.

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BLAZER, EARRINGS – TOPSHOP, BOOTS – BOOHOO, JEANS – JOANIE CLOTHING, T-SHIRT – SATURDAY BY MEGAN ELLABY, BAG – SKINNY DIP

I’LL ALWAYS BE SOCIALLY AWKWARD 

Even though I’ve gotten better since school, a part of me will always be socially awkward. Social anxiety just isn’t something that goes away. In turn, I’ll never be the person in the room that instantly makes friends or starts conversations with strangers. This just isn’t who I am. But, what’s so bad about that?

I want to stop pressuring myself into trying to be this person and just enjoy what I can bring to the table. I can find it hard in group situations, but I’m much better at one-to-one conversations. This means that when I do find friendships, they tend to have much tighter bonds.

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I’M AN EMOTIONAL PERSON

In a stressful situation, my immediate reaction is usually to cry. It’s often the same if I’m angry or upset. I find this quite embarrassing but instead of just trying to hide this reaction, I want to find ways to cope with it better. I want to learn how to prepare for this emotional response and handle situations without breaking down.

I’m not quite sure how to do this one yet, but I definitely want to find out. Although it has made me feel vulnerable, it helps me be understanding when somebody else reacts the same.

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NOT EVERYONE WILL LIKE ME 

Like every single person on this planet, I won’t always be liked. I’ve always concerned myself with how others view me, whether they like me, or if my shyness comes across as being rude. Do they think I’m funny? Do they think I’m stupid? Do they like my clothes? But I’m slowly beginning to accept that no matter what I do, not everyone will like me.

All I can do is to be myself, and try my hardest to not wonder what people think (as easy as that is) because no matter what you do… you won’t always be someone’s cup of tea.

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We all have weaknesses, which is absolutely fine because we all have strengths too. I want to learn how to accept my faults so that I can excel at what I’m good at. I urge you to do the same, I think you’ll find it quite freeing to take the pressure off of yourself to be something you’re not.

25 THINGS I’VE LEARNT IN 25 YEARS

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Last week, I turned 25. Even though it’s still pretty damn young, I feel like this age has definitely crept up on me. For the past few years I’ve been trapped in the past thinking I’m 21. When people ask my age, I genuinely have to think about it. Maybe that will be the age I always feel, like how my mum always used to say she still felt in her twenties, no matter how many years passed her by.

Even though I still have sooooo much to learn and figure out, I have picked up a few life lessons along the way – as most do in this decade! So, I decided to jot down 25 of them, to stick to this ‘quarter-life’ theme and to pass on my ‘wisdom’ (lol).

1. Money buys you freedom, not happiness
2. Coffee is a magic potion that will get you through a working day
3. If friends don’t make any effort to see you, they aren’t true friends
4. The secret to a happy relationship is honesty
5. Buying more clothes will just make you appreciate your old clothes less
6. If getting drunk makes your anxiety worse, don’t do it
7. Plisse trousers are a dream fit for pear-shaped figures
8. Doing something just because it makes you happy, is a good enough reason
9. Wear SPF every day!!!
10. Heels are the devil in shoe-form, don’t bother wearing them
11. Being a dress size smaller isn’t worth depriving yourself of great food
12. Nobody has a perfect job, or life, we all have problems behind closed doors
13. Trust your instincts
14. Whether you like someone is just as (if not more) important than if they like you
15. Don’t spend your hard-earned cash on pretty underwear, comfort is key
16. Don’t trust people that slag off others when they aren’t around
17. A colourful outfit will honestly brighten up your day
18. When it comes to a hairdresser, you get what you pay for (so don’t be stingy)
19. Don’t base relationship goals off of romantic comedies
20. Invest in a good-quality pair of boots instead of buying the pretty shoes
21. Take care of your mental health just like you would your physical health
22. Sometimes people are only supposed to be in your life for a certain amount of time
23. Don’t bother ironing everything in bulk, do it as and when you need it
24. Having fitness goals instead of weight goals can actually make exercise fun
25. Save money for holidays instead of clothes (you have enough)

There you have it, I’m sure you can take every single one of these lessons on board, right? Well, anyway, I’m off to slather my face with anti-ageing moisturiser and eat a slice of leftover birthday cake! x

MY EXPERIENCE IN PHUKET

Phuket was a complete contrast to our short trip in Bangkok. We were able to completely relax, which was exactly what we needed after a long journey and extremely busy few days in Thailand’s capital. At first, the lack of public transport was daunting. It was even more worrying when we realised how far away our accommodation was from everything. But when we arrived at our magnificent hotel, all of my concerns quickly faded away. We were in complete paradise.

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The Crest Resort & Pool Villas is quite literally the fanciest place I have ever seen. I squealed with excitement when I was handed a posh welcome drink and saw the glorious infinity pool, which had a bar INSIDE it. I fell in love with our room, which had TWO double beds joined together, a glorious view and swan-shaped towels.

 

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We definitely made the most of the hotel with plenty of pool days, but we also did a bit of exploring. We visited the Paradise Beach, and the name pretty much says it all. I read books, drank yummy coconut cocktails and swam in the sea. It was glorious.

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We went on a boat trip to Phang Nga Bay and explored the limestone cliffs and rock formations. One of the islands we saw on the trip was Koh Tapu, known as the James Bond Island due to appearing in ‘The Man with the Golden Gun’. Although the Bond feature is the biggest selling point of the trip, and the reason the price is increased, in my opinion it was a bit of a let down. But the beautiful scenery of the rest of the trip made it worthwhile.

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Now, the Phuket Simon Caberet show was like nothing I had EVER experienced before. The promise of the greatest show in the world was definitely not fulfilled, but it was a lot of fun. At one point, a performer dressed in drag danced on men in the audience, and shoved their heads in her fake tatas! It was hilarious but if this is a bit much for you, opt to sit in the upper tier when booking your tickets.

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We decided not to explore much of the town centre because it looked extremely touristy. But I would definitely recommend visiting the beaches and stunning scenery.

The hotel was by far the highlight of the trip. The luxurious spa, yoga and meditation classes, and without forgetting the most important part.. the breakfast buffet, created a little drop of heaven. It helped us feel completely revitalised for our visit to Koh Samui…