With the start of a new school year, I have been reminiscing over my teen years and how far I have come since then. While I was in school, I was very awkward and self-conscious, which I know isn’t uncommon. However, I liked the idea of being able to go back and give that anxious child some advice… and even though it isn’t possible to hop into a time machine, she is still a part of me. So, I have decided to put together a letter to my younger self, in the hope that it conquers some former demons and puts those insecurities FINALLY to rest.
But, before I get ahead of myself, I want to discuss this beautiful dress, that ironically made me feel like a proper ‘grown up’… whatever that may be. I am a sucker for a midi dress, especially when it involves a cheeky leg slit, or two. I was instantly drawn to its elegant style and the brown and white polka dot that instantly reminded me of THAT Pretty Woman dress (you know which one I mean!) This figure-flattering number is perfect for any special occasion where you want to radiate class and sophistication. I paired it with a simple black handbag, a pair of white heeled boots and added a touch of glamour with these emerald green earrings to create a special outfit to kick-start this fabulous season.
Okay, so onto the letter….
Dear teenage me,
First of all, when people tell you that high school is the best time of your life and you think, ‘surely not’, I can assure you.. this definitely is not the case. You may not have the stress of bills or the responsibility of a job yet but don’t worry, your best years are very much still ahead of you. But I’m sorry to say, you will need to go through some tough moments to get there.
High school isn’t where you thrive. You are going to feel like you don’t fit in and wish you could be like all of the ‘popular’ girls. You might not have the same interests, be as loud or have the same sense of humour as them. However, one thing that you will eventually realise is that everybody is different and that is a good thing. You will learn to accept who you are, even your flaws and realise that you don’t need to pretend to be like anybody else.
DRESS – TOPSHOP, BAG – ACCESSORIZE, EARRINGS – SWAROVSKI, SHOES – PRIMARK
The awful feeling you get when standing up in front of a class for presentations will not go away, no matter what teachers tell you. But, you will learn how to hide your nerves… even if you aren’t feeling confident. You will also discover that those horrible insecure thoughts and the sheer embarrassment you feel over the smallest things… doesn’t make you weird, it means you have anxiety. Not a lot of people will understand this for a while, but when you grow up, you will learn that you are not alone in feeling this way. You will discover how to cope with it so that it no longer consumes your every day life.
During your school years, friendship seems like the most important thing in the world and while it still is important… you will realise that friends come and go. You’ll see the true colours of certain people and learn they aren’t adding anything positive into your life and you will simply just grow apart from others. It is sad and if you feel you need to, grieve for the relationship you’ve lost but remember, the real friends will stay.
You have never been very good with romantic relationships (as you know all too well). Having a boyfriend seems like a million years away… but even though it takes you a while, you will find somebody you connect with, who you can share your life with. But first, you will learn how to be independent and to love yourself.
Finally, stop focusing so much attention onto your looks. It is fun to put time into your appearance, to do your hair, experiment with makeup and of course, fashion. However, it is not a priority. Try and concentrate more on who you are as a person, who you want to be and how you can get there. What interests you? What are you passionate about? You will grow up thinking that it isn’t okay to be anything other than skinny and to look like a Victoria Secret model but, that is an absolute lie. Once you find that out, you’ll wish you didn’t spend so much time obsessing over it.
These next few years will be hard but you will find your place and be happy.
Future you X