Ever since I began my career as a journalist I have felt like an imposter. I questioned whether I was good enough and didn’t think that I belonged. I felt like I had somehow ‘snuck in’ and worried that one day somebody would ‘find out’, tap me on the shoulder and tell me to leave. Even when I had successes I assumed it was just a fluke and that it couldn’t possibly happen again, even though it did. Self-doubt and insecurities have gotten the best of me far too many times but I think it is time I put a stop to this.
For a while I thought I was the only one feeling this way but I have recently learnt that the majority of us are going through this and that there is a name for it, imposter syndrome. It seems to be is quite common for people to not praise themselves when they have achieved something good… which might just be a British thing, in a similar way to not accepting compliments.
However, to help overcome this daunting feeling it is important to remind yourself that you have had a part to play in your successes. You did that. Nobody else… and that is why you are where you are. This doesn’t mean that you won’t make mistakes but that doesn’t discredit everything positive you have done, or make you a fraud.
DRESS – ZARA, SHOES – PRIMARK, JACKET – URBAN OUTFITTERS, BAG – MICHAEL KORS, EARRINGS – ACCESSORIZE, SUNGLASSES – TOPSHOP
I think we can sometimes forget that nobody really knows what they’re doing and everybody is just making it up as they go along… it’s just that some people are more convincing than others. If you speak to your colleagues, friends and family members you will probably be surprised at how many of them are just ‘winging it’ and feeling like an imposter themselves. There is also a long list of extremely successful celebrities such as Tina Fey, Emma Watson and Michelle Pfieffer, who have openly talked about struggling with imposter syndrome too. For a long time I was trying to hide that I felt this way but I think the more I talk about it, the easier it will be to overcome.
When I first began feeling like this, I decided to act confident and not let anybody know that I was unsure of myself. Now this is something I do if I am ever in a situation where I feel like I am out of my depth and most of the time, I’ve realised that I do know what I’m talking about and it was just making myself believe it.
Something else that always helps me overcome this feeling, is of course, wearing a killer outfit. This dress is PERFECT for making me feel sexy, confident and in some way, powerful. Heeled boots are also my go-to for giving me some added sass. I feel like this outfit is still classy and sophisticated but wherever you show up wearing this, everyone will know you mean business.
Do you also struggle with imposter syndrome and if so, do you have any tips to help overcome it? x