Putting yourself into situations that are out of your comfort zone can be extremely daunting. Whether you are starting a new job, tackling a fear or even just throwing on a bold outfit that you wouldn’t normally wear.. it can definitely be a challenge. However, I have learnt that if something like this makes you feel anxious or scared, it is probably going to help you grow and the more you do it, the easier it will become… and one day it won’t even bother you.
I have been pushing myself to get out of my comfort zone for the past few years because honestly.. if I didn’t I probably wouldn’t be the person I am today. When I left university I threw myself into jobs that made me feel anxious and nervous because I knew that they would help me in my career. I’m not gonna lie, through these jobs there have been a number of times where I felt sick to my stomach because I was thrown into intimidating situations. However, even though at the time it made me feel uncomfortable… I learnt something from each and every one of those experiences.
Looking back over the past few years makes me realise how far I have come because of this. I remember even being petrified of speaking on the phone in front of people but now I am able to speak confidently on the phone without caring if anybody else hears me. I think the old ‘fake it til ya make it’ saying definitely comes into play here.. because from what I have learnt, I have the capability of doing these things, it is just getting myself to believe it.
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For somebody who is naturally quite a shy person I have taken this mantra into my social life too. I used to hate the thought of meeting new people because I was terrified that I wouldn’t know what to say or that they wouldn’t like me. However, it was only when I pushed myself to actually do it that I realised it was all just in my head. From giving myself a nudge to put myself in these situations I have become a lot more confident around people I don’t already know and being sociable has become much more natural to me.
I think this is also something that I bring into my style. When I am buying something new I think about what my wardrobe is missing to avoid being repetitive and to encourage myself to try new things. However, something I have been shying away from lately is hats. I have always admired the lovely ladies who can pull off a beret or baker boy hat like no otherrrrr.. but I just didn’t think it was for me.
After months of yearning after one but thinking I couldn’t, I decided to shake off this feeling and to just buy a freaking beret. When I wore this baby for the first time there was definitely a part of me that felt a little uneasy and insecure but the rest of me felt amazing. I know that the more I wear it, the more confident and comfortable I will feel in it… and then I might even move on to a baker boy hat! Check me out…
If there is something you really want to do but you’ve been putting it off because it is scary and gives you butterflies in your tummy… just do it. Trust me, you will feel so much better for it… even if it is just buying a beret.